Kundalini Yoga with Bijay J Anand


A Spiritual Perspective on Extra-Marital Affairs

Bijay J Anand,

Why do men and women have extra-marital affairs?

To answer that question, I have to first define the kind of flings and extra-marital affairs that people are capable of indulging in.

The Philanderer: Not quite able to have any control over their first three chakras, these souls just crave for creature comforts from whichever source they can get it from.

There is usually no discrimination of any kind when these minds are taken over by their sexual urges. As long as there is flesh involved, their carnal pleasures take precedence over discernment or logic.

Must have, must do and make hay while the sun shines are mantras typically associated with ‘The Philanderers’.

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Should your child be successful or happy?
The spirituality of raising our children to be happy, successful AND blissful human beings.

Bijay J Anand,

Should your child be successful or happy?

This is a story about a couple that loves their daughters very much. Like most parents do. And like most parents they dream of a beautiful future for their daughters, a secure future, great education, a well settled life, etc.

What I want to share with you in this blog is just how wrongly they are going about it.

So the elder daughter, all of 12 years of age, has severe eczema. From her neck down, almost every part of her body has skin that is rotting away from its flesh. To the point of disfigurement which is most likely to be life long.

The other tragedy of the parents futuristic vision of success for their daughters is that both the girls are not allowed to ‘waste their time’ playing after school. What they are supposed to do ‘for their beautiful future’ is study.

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Where Capitalism meets Spirituality

Bijay J Anand,

Where Capitalism meets Spirituality

I was once with a dear friend of mine who heads one of the largest MNC’s in India when she told me about a workshop that she had organised for a majority of her organisation’s work-force over that weekend. Curious, I asked her what the workshop was about.

She told me that the two-day workshop was an in-depth analysis of Philip Kotler’s style of management principles and their applications thereof in the Indian context.

Corporates around the world spend a small fortune on training their staff on various topics for developments related to their personalities, leadership qualities, group dynamics, team building capabilities and other such programs.

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The ‘Authenticity’ of a yoga teacher

Bijay J Anand,

The ‘Authenticity’ of a yoga teacher

A fellow yoga teacher kindly suggested to me today morning that I should register myself with ‘Yoga Alliance’. As per her advice, it would give me and my capability as a yoga teacher ‘credibility’ and that it would be good for ‘business’ considering all international yoga studios, festivals, corporates and ‘important clients’ would now be rest assured that I am capable of teaching yoga.

Ahem. . . .

So I, an Indian, teaching a 5000-year old Indian way of life, researched and developed by Indians in India now need to get the authenticity of my teaching verified by an American company that learnt the spelling of yoga roughly around 40-50 years ago and is now making billions of dollars every year by ‘authenticating’ the veracity of every yoga teacher around the world worth his or her name.

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Violence and physical abuse in a relationship – What to do when you love him and don’t want to let go

Bijay J Anand,

Physical abuse

I once got a call at 2.30am from a dear friend who told me that she was at Colaba police station because one of her best friends had been beaten up black and blue by her husband. The reason why she had called me was that the cop on duty had refused to take down her complaint despite having made them wait for over 4 hours.

A couple of phone calls later, I came to realize that the reason why there was lethargy on the part of the uniforms to take action against an obvious monster was on account of the serious amount of clout the lady in questions husband wielded in society and its administrators.

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Want freedom from smoking?

Bijay J Anand,

Want freedom from smoking?

If you have decided to quit smoking, here is some solid advice by an ex-chain smoker on what works and what doesn’t

I teach Kundalini Yoga. I teach people to love their body. I also help people with addictions- alcohol, smoking, drugs and anything else that they would like to get rid of.

I myself lead a pretty healthy lifestyle. My day begins at 4.30am with my sadhana, yoga, and meditation, and  I sleep before 10 pm. I don’t smoke and I don’t have alcohol (except the occasional red wine that I absolutely love) and I am a vegetarian.

But there was a time not so long ago when life looked very different for me. I loved playing poker and the only time that people in Mumbai like to play that game is ‘late-night-through-the-morning’

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Alpha in the house

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Dance of the two spirals

Most people think and believe that the secret to a happy home, one characterised by love, peace and harmony, is that the couple who live in it should have equal rights, say, dominance, voice, decision-making rights, etc. in the house.

I, somehow, beg to differ.

So this is how it goes. When a couple enter into a relationship with ‘equal rights’ and ‘equal egos’, it leaves the field wide open for conflict, acrimony and mayhem. Whenever such a couple differ on a decision, both believe it to be their equal right to assert themselves in any way they can and to have it their way.

My theory is simply that there needs to be one decision-maker at home who has the final vote on how it ends up being done at the end of the day. Remember Amitabh Bachchan in the movie Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Gham and his iconic dialogue Keh diya na, bas!!!

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Sayyonee

Bijay J Anand,

Cultivate your magnetism

She was the apple of his eye. He always thought about how incomplete his day would ever be if he had to not wake up to the sight of her snuggled up in her bed and breathing ever so softly with a hint of a smile across her face. It was a sight that gave him all the elixir he needed to have a beautiful day ahead.

Of course she’d grow up one day. She’d marry and belong to the one who’d have taken her as a life partner. But he knew that even then every cell in his heart would beat for his love and profound affection that he had for her. He knew also that it would be like this till the day he breathed his last.

Her name was Sayyonee and she was already at an age where she had started asking a lot of questions. “Too many!” as Samahira his wife would smile fondly and say. But he had all the time in the world to answer every question that ever formed in his beloved daughters mind, sometimes even before the question even fully formed in Sayyonee’s little head.

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Cultivate your magnetism

Bijay J Anand,

Cultivate your magnetism

As an ambitious youngster, I spent a considerable number of years learning how to be a better salesman, marketing professional and dynamic leader. I enrolled in public speaking courses, read books on body language, communication skills, face reading and mind control methods. My gurus were Lee Iacocca, Philip Kotler and Wayne W Dyer.

And then I got involved with yoga, spirituality and finally Kundalini Yoga. While practising Kundalini Yoga I came to one major conclusion, “If your presence does not work for you, nothing will.” You can have a room with three people in it. Someone walks in, nobody notices him. Or you can have a room with a 1000 people in it and one person walks in, and everyone stops what they are doing to look at this person. What do you think is the difference?

It is the calibre of the person.

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Dance of the two spirals

Bijay J Anand,

Dance of the two spirals

My wife had never been into exercising or working out when we got married. By virtue of her youth, good eating habits and her love for dancing, she was blessed with a good figure.

Before Kundalini Yoga changed my life and I became a yoga teacher four years ago, I was into practicing Iyengar Yoga, swimming and badminton. So after our marriage, my wife also took to doing some form of physical activity or the other. Depending upon her mood, either it was the gym, Pilates or some yoga at other times.

All of that went out of the window after we had our daughter. From a svelte 50 kg my wife bloomed into a robust 72 kilos. And for some time, it did look like my wife was going to spend her future in size XL.

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